Here are 14 Success Strategies for Highly Sensitive People!
1. Accept your sensitivity.
Your sensitivity is a gift. I know it doesn’t always feel like it. But
it is. I spent more than half of my life denying that I was a highly
sensitive. Until you acknowledge and say “yes” to your sensitivity you
cannot begin to learn the tools that will help you leverage that
sensitivity into a positive benefit.
2. Choose to empower your sensitivity rather than minimize it.
It has taken me many years to get to the place where I can truly claim
my sensitivity and use it as a powerful tool on my journey of
self-discovery and deliberate creation. As a Highly Sensitive Person in
an often over stimulating world, dampening your sensitivity sometimes
seems like the best solution. And while that may be helpful, and even
necessary, at first, ultimately you want to empower your sensitivity and
turn it into a powerful ally in the creation of a truly brilliant life.
3. Spend time with other sensitive people.
It is very easy to get caught up in the stress and overload of our
frenetic, chaotic world. Sometimes it seems as if there is no one else
as sensitive as you. And from that thought it’s a short slide down the
slippery slope into feeling like you are crazy or weird or strange. So
find some other folks who are highly sensitive and create a support
group where you can go for encouragement and to remind each other that
you are not alone and that you are not crazy. One important note on
this: This group is not a complain and whine group! The point is not to
compare notes on how horrible and insensitive the rest of the world is.
You connect with other Highly Sensitive People in order to know that you
are not alone and discuss ways to leverage your sensitivity to create
positive changes in your lives!
4. Hang out with successful, not-so-sensitive people.
I know this seems like a contradiction of the last one. But I have seen
it happen (in myself and others) where a sensitive person basically
says “screw you” to the rest of the world and all of the less sensitive
people and finds someplace to curl up in a little ball and hide. While
this can certainly be a beneficial and sometimes necessary short-term
strategy, it’s not an effective long-term solution. Those of us who are
highly sensitive can learn a lot from people who are not sensitive. So
find some not-so-sensitive people who are successful and begin hanging
out with them. Observe them. Learn from them. Watch how they move
through the world. Not so that you can dampen your sensitivity but so
that you might learn how to bring your sensitivity into the world in a
5. Start a regular practice of “mindful exercise.”
Exercise is important for everyone. But especially so for Highly
Sensitive People. Moving your body helps to get any environmental,
emotional and energetic toxins out of your system. While any type of
exercise is beneficial, workouts that incorporate your mind, body and
spirit can be especially helpful. Try things like Yoga, Tai Chi, Akido.
and Pilates. Dancing and rock-climbing can also be great opportunities
for the body, mind and spirit to move. The bottom line is to find a form
of exercise that touches YOUR body, mind and spirit.
6. Find HSP role models, sensitive people who have leveraged their sensitivity to create a great life.
Do you know any Highly Sensitive People who have learned to not only
survive in this world, but thrive in it? What lessons can learn from
them? What life strategies can you emulate? If you can’t find role
models in your own life, look in the wider world. What teachers,
authors, artists, and entrepreneurs (yes there are successful AND highly
sensitive entrepreneurs) can you find? Once you find them, again look
for lessons and strategies that they are using to leverage their
sensitivity into success.
7. Gently push yourself beyond the level of your sensitivity.
Your sensitivity is a gift and strength. But in order for this gift to
be of any value to you and to the world, you must learn how to put it
into use. That means you have to stretch yourself and bring your
sensitivity with you into places and situations where it feels
uncomfortable. Just as you build muscle mass through resistance, you
increase your ability to bring your sensitivity into the world by
practicing and exercising.
8. Know your limits. Don’t push
yourself so far that you blow a fuse! Become aware of the internal
signals that let you know you are reaching maximum capacity. And when
you notice them back off. You want to push yourself and strengthen your
sensitivity, but not to the point where it causes you to blow a fuse!
9. Set up a consistent self-care routine.
As a sensitive person you need more self care than others. Don’t
compare yourself to less sensitive people. Get clear on your needs and
take steps to ensure that those needs are met. If you need a massage
every week, get one. If you need to take a bath with sea salts every
night, do it. Your sensitivity is of no use if you are not able to
function in the world!
10. Connect with nature as often as possible.
If there is one consistent theme I have found among sensitive people it
is the restorative capacity of nature. Even if you live in a city get
outside every day. Connect with a tree. If you don’t want to look
strange, pretend you’re leaning up against it waiting for some. But
while you’re there, feel the restorative, grounding energy flowing
through that tree.
11. Create safe, sanctuary spaces. It
is very important for sensitive people to have safe spaces to go to when
the world gets overwhelming. You need to know that no matter what is
happening in the wider world, that you have a safe space, a sanctuary to
which you can return and restore yourself. Ideally, your home is your
sanctuary. If it’s not, start by taking a small space and turning it
into a safe, private, sanctuary where you can go when you need quiet and
12. Limit your exposure to news. In some ways,
this one suggestion may be the easiest and most powerful success
strategy for Highly Sensitive People. And yet, I find it amazing how
often this suggestion triggers people. They feel that if they don’t read
the newspaper they’ll be missing out on important information. My
response is that if reading the newspaper makes you feel like crap what
good does that information do for anyone. I would much rather see you
feeling great and doing positive things in the world, than see you
feeling depressed and hopeless because you’re reading too much news.
13. Explore energetic healing modalities.
My training at the Academy of Intuition Medicine has been the most
powerful work in my quest to empower and balance my sensitive nature.
Try acupuncture, homeopathy, reiki, energy medicine, flower essences and
other forms of energetic healing. When you find one that works,
schedule regular sessions.
14. Learn how to create positive energetic boundaries.
There are wonderful resources that can teach you to setup positive
energetic boundaries. Start with my course, The Energetics of Attraction
and explore Energy Medicine University (the distance learning wing of
the Academy of Intuition Medicine). Read books by Caroline Myss, Donna
Eden, and others. Once you venture into this world you will be amazed at
how easily you are led to the information and teachers you need to get
learn how to thrive in this world!
If you are a Highly
Sensitive Person, I encourage you to begin using some of these
strategies. Look through the list and pick one or two of these that
resonate with you and begin integrating them into your daily life. You
may be surprised at how quickly and dramatically your life can change
when you actively employ success strategies specifically designed for
Highly Sensitive People.
Please leave a comment below and let
us know which of these strategies you already use and what other
techniques you use as a sensitive person in this world.
you want more information, inspiration and techniques to help you thrive
in this world as an empowered sensitive person, I encourage you to read
my new report: The Energetics of Attraction: Understanding and Applying
the Harmonics of Human Awareness and to Compose The Life You Desire.